It’s only been a couple days since Mohan and Christa got hitched, but I really want to re-do their wedding. I know they probably don’t want to since it’d cost a lot and they’ve already signed the marriage license. But still, I had so much fun this past weekend that it’s difficult to get back into the normal routine of life.
It doesn’t help that my job only requires 15-18 hours of my week and my internship maybe another 10. Even so, I think I’d feel the same way if I had to work 60 hours this week. As I discovered this last weekend, weddings are completely different when you’re a part of them. I didn’t just show up for the ceremony and reception; I was there to set up and clean up both the rehearsal and main ceremony. Seeing the event being pieced together with all the small details was an amazing and exciting experience.
I want to do it again.
Why is that? Well, along with the wedding itself, I got to meet a ton of new people: Many from the groom’s side, the bride’s side, and plenty of mutual friends. Hearing how they were related to the bride or groom or how they shared a season of life with both was a mesmerizing experience. It was like reading a novel of Mohan and Christa’s past; how they met each other and how their friendship grew over the years. And much like a good novel, it’s hard to put down.
Quite honestly, I think weddings like that one – weddings guided by pure and innocent hearts rather than routine and ritual – give a vivid glimpse of heaven. I know that sounds cheesy and rather cliché, but honestly, I believe it. I believe God’s home is going to be one where work is joyfully done so the parties can be perfect. And I believe there will definitely be parties with dancing and wine… lots of wine 🙂
I don’t mean to sound like I’m about to crash a bunch of weddings, but I really had a good time at this one. When the ceremony was all over and dinner consumed, I felt the joy begin to consummate when I gave a toast. Normally, I’m terribly nervous speaking in front of people. Anyone who took Principles of Advertising with me can attest to that. But when it came time to talk about Mo and Christa, I had fun with it.
Moments later is when the dancing began. I saw Mohan going crazy and figured it was safe for me as well. And it’s not a characteristic unique to just Mo, either; his brothers, sisters, and cousins display this fearlessness as well. It really changed the whole wedding, I think – these relatives, both new and old, letting all their energy go that night. The ones who normally sit back and watch (i.e. people like me) were suddenly out there rockin’ away. It wasn’t until hours had passed before the dancers started filtering away. When I decided to call it quits, it was nearly 2 in the morning and my feet were throbbing. A small sacrifice for the fun I had.
Like I said, after an experience like that, it’s hard to go back to normal. But that’s just it; I don’t think God wants us to go back to normal. In my toast to Mohan and Christa, I talked about Mo as someone who redefines “normal.” He borrows your stuff, watches a ridiculous amount of TV while studying (and yes, it proves effective for him), and – most importantly – makes all the necessary sacrifices in order to be with the woman he loves. Likewise, I think God wants us to work through our jobs; our duties as children, siblings, and parents; and our painful moments of life because the celebration at the end of it all is totally worth it.
Not but an hour or so before the ceremony began, I had cut the bottom of my foot open on a stone step getting Mohan’s ring from his car. It only took 20 minutes or so to clean up and wrap up, but for this entire week (and possibly next week as well), I have to hobble around like a pirate. In an odd way, though, the painful steps send shockwaves of joyful memories from this weekend. I think this is why we experience pain, trials, and tribulations; because each one – if dealt with through a pursuit of God – reminds us that with as deep as our pain goes, God dives deeper. His joy, love, and pursuit of us overcome everything because He has made the only necessary sacrifice to be with the ones He loves.
Life doesn’t seem so difficult with the end party in sight. Sure, we’ll have our rough days and momentarily think otherwise. But if the party is like Mohan and Christa’s wedding, it’ll be well worth it.